We all like being right. If it is not a basic human trait it is certainly drilled into us at an early age. “Yes, that is the right answer. Well done. You are such a good child.” It does not take many of these to make us realize that it is good to have the right answers. Not that there is anything wrong with that. Good positive reinforcement of our efforts to grow, learn and improve. As we go on about our lives we begin to hear more often the phrase, “Good Question.” This too is important reinforcement, and one that could use even more encouragement.
It turns out that as we get older, while the pressures and challenges of life seem to require better and better answers, the key to real growth and success is asking the right questions. So the question is, how do we know the right questions? Good question, I am glad you asked.
The right question often is to question the question. For example
Who is at fault? > Why do I need to blame someone? > What needs to be fixed?
Why do I keep doing this even though I want to stop? > What is the outcome I want? > Why is that important to me?
What is the right question? > How do I figure out what to ask? > Is there a skill I can learn so that I start asking the better questions?
I hope that helps a little.
The right question is the one that provides an answer that can be acted on to get the desired results?