The Right Questions

We all like being right.  If it is not a basic human trait it is certainly drilled into us at an early age. “Yes, that is the right answer.  Well done. You are such a good child.”  It does not take many of these to make us realize that it is good to have the right answers. Not that there is anything wrong with that.  Good positive reinforcement of our efforts to grow, learn and improve.  As we go on about our lives we begin to hear more often the phrase, “Good Question.”  This too is important reinforcement, and one that could use even more encouragement.

It turns out that as we get older, while the pressures and challenges of life seem to require better and better answers, the key to real growth and success is asking the right questions.  So the question is, how do we know the right questions?  Good question, I am glad you asked.

The right question often is to question the question. For example

Who is at fault? > Why do I need to blame someone? > What needs to be fixed?

Why do I keep doing this even though I want to stop? > What is the outcome I want?  > Why is that important to me?

What is the right question? > How do I figure out what to ask? > Is there a skill I can learn so that I start asking the better questions?

I hope that helps a little.

The right question is the one that provides an answer that can be acted on to get the desired results?


Leadership In Lakeland

At the recent Lakeland Business Leaders (LBL) Power Breakfast the topic of the morning was leadership.  After breaking into groups, we each had an opportunity to talk about the key lesson, book or person that most impacted.  Unfortunately (as if luck had anything to do with it) I was late (leadership trait – not) and missed a chance to hear what Craig Hosking had to say.  And yet it has fallen to me to describe and share his remarks.  Fortunately (again no luck involved, so why do I keep using that word) I got an opportunity to watch Craig’s leadership in action.  I say no luck involved because there is no better way to learn a persons thoughts on leadership than to see what they do and Craig did not develop these traits by luck.

What I saw was someone who exemplified the key traits we were discussing that morning; other focused, lead by example, encourage and grow those around you, lead by serving a cause bigger than yourself.  Specifically, I saw Craig;

  • Encouraging Marshall to expand his thought with follow up questions.
  • Keeping the conversation going whenever there was a pause.
  • Helping to make sure everyone was heard.
  • Enthusiastically and actively listening to everyone.

Thank you Craig being a leader.